Voice Activation
Your Voice Matters and it Deserves to be Heard
Does the thought of speaking your truth feel a little overwheling? Does the idea of setting boundaries, expressing your needs and maybe letting other people down in the process terrify you? If it does, you're not alone.
Too many women have been taught to stay small and stay quiet in order to avoid upsetting others. It’s time to break free from that conditioning (a.k.a rebel) and discover the power of your true voice.
Even if your voice shakes, it deserves to be heard
I don't know about you, but growing up I always felt as if I had to be perfect. I was conditioned to believe that I neded to put everyone else's needs before my own and that setting boundaries for myself made me selfish.
As the years went by, saying what I wanted, expressing when I was frustrated, or god forbid saying no to someone became harder and harder to do.
Eventually, the weight of carrying so many unspoken truths nearly destroyed me (like literally lol) and when I finally started speaking my truth it felt like the scariest thing in the entire world.
My Rock Bottom/ My Rebirth
I'll never forget the day that I called my big brother to tell him one of the scariest things I'd ever said before.
(Please be forewarned that what I'm about to share may be triggering.)
Before calling my brother I did what I always did before giving anyone a call, I sent him a text to see if we could talk on the phone at some point during that day. He told me when he'd be free so I did everything I could to be as patient as possible as I waited for that time to come.
After the hours had finally passed by, I called him and asked how he was doing. I listened to him the best I could as I tried with everything in me to hold back the flood of tears that were waiting to pour out of me at any second.
Then he finally asked me - "How are you doing Lau?" To which I replied "I'm not doing very good Abou.
I don't feel like I can do this anymore. I just don't know how to be here or how to make it all stop.
It hurts too much and I feel like the only way to make the pain stop is to end my life."
After that, it felt as if my body disappeared and it became even harder to listen to my brother, but somehow, he convinced me to leave my apartment and follow through on my plans to visit my cousin that evening. The next person I shared my truth with was my cousin and then after that with a woman that worked at the crisis center that I was going to be staying at.
Time and time again I was having to speak my truth - I no longer wanted to be here because the pain I was carrying from being in a lifelong abusive relationship with my parents. They'd broken me in every way that I could imagine and I couldn't possibly imagine ever coming back from how broken I felt.
But guess what? Every time I spoke my truth it became a little bit less scary and the pain within me became a little less painful. I still have my moments when I feel nervous to speak my truth but now I remind myself that If I can share my deepest, darkest, most painful memories, fears, and flaws with others in the way that I did then - I can definitely use my voice now.
I know with all my heart and soul that if I can go through what I went through and still somehow find my voice in spite of it, then you can too.
Women Have Been Silenced For Far Too Long
Women have been conditioned for thousands of years to be the good girl, the good wife, the good mother, but why is it that our definition of goodness is tied to how much a woman will sacrifice herself, her needs, and her truth in order to make others feel comfortable and or happy?
Why is it that women have been taught that we need to put other people's happiness before our own? Well, there's a long and complicated history behind it, but, throughout that history there have been so many incredibly brave, wise, rebellious women just like you that have shown us that not only do women's voices matter, but they are freaking powerful.
Speaking your truth is the scariest and
the bravest thing you'll ever do
When you choose to speak your truth you're saying so much more than the words that are coming out of your mouth. Each time you say no, each time you say what you want, each time you choose to be yourself instead of shrinking or silencing yourself to make others feel more comfortable you're saying:
1. My thoughts and feelings matter just as much as yours
2. I'm allowed to be who I am without feeling guilty or as if I'm doing something wrong
3. It's not my responsibility to sacrifice my needs in order to make you feel happy or comfortable
4. I care about myself just as much as I care about you
5. I deserve to be loved for who I am
6. I deserve to be happy too
7. I deserve to be heard
8. What I have to say matters
Everything Changed When She Finally Decided to Step Out of the Shadows and Into the Spotlight...
Although your spotlight might not be on a stage, when you choose to finally step into it, I know that in spite of the fear - you're going to shine like a freaking super star.
You know how I know?
Because you're going to learn the best tools out there to help you find your voice and finally start expressing your truth like you never have before.
The Tools You'll Learn
In case you're wondering, the specific tools you'll learn to help you build the confidence you need to start
using your voice include:
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Vagus Nerve Techniques
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Nerve and Muscle Decompression Techniques
- Creative Arts Therapy Techniques (drama, art, music)
- Some extra special secret sauce
After spending years researching, trying, and teaching the techniques I know and love, the biggest lesson I've learned is this: trying to heal any aspect of ourselves without incorporating play not only sucks, but it can also be (re)traumatizing and even reinforce the unhelpful patterns that we're trying to change.
So that's why each time that do this work, we'll also be playing.
The Power of Play
It's been shown that it takes approximately 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain (fancy words for us learning something new such as a skill or habit) however, when we incorporate play it only takes between 10 to 20 repetitions for a new synapse to form.
If you look at both kids and animals you'll notice that they do something that many adults no longer do. Once they've calmed down after having a sad, frustrating, or stressful moment, they go and play.
Play is one of the best ways of letting our nervous system know that we're safe and it's also one of the fastest ways of helping our brains to learn new skills and or ways of being. Without play, our nervous system and our minds can stay stuck in the patterns that we're trying to unlearn for much longer than we'd like to.
Play - to me at least - is one of the most bad ass forms of rebellion (along with kindness, compassionate honesty, & bravery).
Choosing to incorporate play into the process of finding your voice is the secret sauce that will help you to incorporate all the tools you'll learn faster than other programs that focus solely on changing your mindset.
With the help of play you'll be using your voice and expressing yourself in all the ways you've been dreaming of before you know it.
How I know these tools work
The tools that I teach hold an incredibly special place in my heart because without them, I wouldn't be here.
They've helped me to process and release traumas that I had no clue how to handle beforehand and they've also helped me to feel so much braver speaking my truth (even when I'm scared AF).
They've also helped so many other people just like you and me to finally feel safe and confident using their voices.
I want that for you so much because I know just how hard and how painful it can be to hold back your truth.
But I genuinely believe that you, just like everyone else, deserve to be heard, seen, and loved for who you are.
I know with all my heart and soul that together, we can activate your voice and finally set it free so that the world can finally get a glimpse of the you you've always wanted to be.
Ready to Find Your Voice?
If you are, here are all the packages I offer:
1. Speak Easy (An hour long 1:1 session of voice activation) $111
2. Voice activation intro (Three 1:1 hour long voice activation classes) $333
3. Quiet Strength (a 3 month group program for women looking to set boundaries and express their needs) $555
4. Find Your Voice (a 1:1 deep dive program for women looking to finally speak and live their truth) $1111
Each offering will allow you go that much deeper into the wildly wonderful journey of discovering and activating your voice. The exercises will vary slightly from one offering to the next but the main difference between each one is the amount of time that we spend working together.
I don't have a specific outline for each offering to share with you because I customize each session we have together based on your specific challenges, your goals and the amount of time with spend together.
If you have any questions, concerns, or you simply want to dive straight in please go ahead and click the button below to connect with me now.
I'm so excited to hear from you and I can't wait to support you in finally finding your voice.
Sending you the biggest hugs - Lau <3